Well, in family life there are "The Big Five" also. They are so well known we get almost bored reciting them - prayer, scripture reading, attending church weekly, doing things together (service, work, play, eat), and family home evening.
But, the question is, "What if we are doing all those things and we still have problems?" I would like to share with you a 1994 entry from my journal.
"He said he hated her, and his eyes showed he meant it. Her sulking in her bedroom gave no room for negotiation or resolution. I hurt and felt nauseated. Right then heaven was a long way from our home. I was tormented. Families, our family, was not supposed to be like this. I loved and ached for both of them. There was nothing else to do but more of the same; family prayers, scripture time, family home evenings, vacations, going to church. Slowly the battlefield had fewer casualties. Time and the gospel and growing were working. Missions, college, temple marriages, and more growing.
"Now, I watch these two with their spouses playing Scrabble, going to Disneyland, snowballing.....being friends.
No healing of the deaf, blind, and leperous was more of a miracle than watching him cuddle her baby and whisper, 'Remember, I'm your favorite uncle.' "
And they're worth it.